Shortly following Jeff’s passing from cardiomyopathy, many family and friends posted letters to Jeff on his personal website. Within days there were literally 100’s of notes, stories, and memories written by Jeff’s loved ones. It truly was a testament to how he affected so many lives and for many of us it provided a way to let him know how much he was appreciated and would be missed.

The Foundation has decided to share the following letter from Jeff’s Mom and notes from others close to Jeff for several reasons.

First, we hope it will enable readers to get to know Jeff better. He truly was a ‘great guy’.

Secondly, it relates to feelings experienced by so many that have had their worlds unalterably shattered when their seemingly healthy, son/daughter or brother/sister or friend is suddenly taken.

Finally, we ask that you please help us to prevent more parents, families and friends from going through this experience by getting involved with this worthy cause.



July 29, 2003

Dearest Jeffrey,
It has now been one week since you left us. There are no words to express the depth of my sadness. Some think that I’m strong, but that’s just a facade for others. Inside, I am crushed and so badly broken that I’ll never be whole again. I know I need to put aside the intense pain and anger to focus on the positives, and there were so many positives about you.

You gave me immeasurable joy in your short life. You were the fulfillment of every mother’s wish list. Although you were bright, talented, responsible, funny, tall, strong, and handsome, your greatest beauty radiated from within. It would be impossible to explain the joy and pride you brought to me through your kindness and sensitivity to others. Never judgmental, always supportive, you were always there for your family and friends.

You had the ability to make everyone you met feel, not only welcome, but valued. Laughter and happiness were gifts you brought to all who knew you. Even in our grief, you shared that gift. As we poured over family photo albums, tears of laughter drove away the tears of sorrow as we relived your childhood memories. Jeffrey, you were so much fun.

This week, literally, hundreds of people have spoken and written to confirm my sentiments. Your understated nature and your determination to avoid the spotlight only drew people closer to you. You were blessed with so many wonderful friends, Jeff. They are such a comfort. Through them, little pieces of you are brought back to me, and I am so grateful.

Know that I’ll carry you tucked away in a special place within the shattered remains of my heart until we can be together again. I can almost hear your voice saying, as it always did whenever I fussed over you, “Mom…don’t worry, I’m fine.”

I love you Jeff.
Mom

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Letters to Jeff

Seven weeks before he left us, Jeff launched a website which he created for his friends. The site included a message board to enable friends to share news and announce upcoming events. In the days immediately following his passing, many friends made use of this website as a vehicle for expressing some final thoughts to Jeff.

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